Feeling very low indeed...

[Burger]

Sorry if this is long winded and depressing, but it’s how I currently feel. Been doing a lot a schoolboy errors recently, and currently have no love for the job I’m doing or even much pride. I think the final straw was last week after spending 4 hours on a job for me to rip it out again (that’s another story), since then, can’t seem to get going, just huffing and puffing a lot. Even looking at different jobs or even different career paths, but money on those is very low in comparison. Maybe it’s just who I work for currently (allegedly time served at council/housing association) been them nearly 15 years, and when I look at what people know on here it really gets my goat, because I feel I don’t even know some basics.

Not looking for sympathy, just looking for ideas etc.

Thanks in advance.

 

[Millsy 82]

Every few years I seem to go through a bad patch with my breakdowns. Went through one about a month ago 3/4 boilers i struggled to repair i start doubting myself and start thinking I'm no good at the job and put myself down.

It lasted the best part of a month maybe 6 weeks and on the 4 jobs it cost me around 16 hours of unpaid time as the money I learnt on the 1st breakdown got spent on additional parts. I had to really have a talk to myself and go back to basics and then confidence starts coming back.

It is very difficult when you are in a slump and when I used to work for a company that would be the time I would start looking to move.

Sometimes changing company is great new people to learn things from new ways of doing things and also makes you concentrate as you dont want to mess up in the first few months.

 

[ShaunCorbs]

We all have them thoughts / feelings monthly / quarterly

Your never on your own

 

[Aire]

I had the same feelings about 9 years ago. I just didn't want to get up and go to work anymore, so I quit my job and joined another company. Been happy with them ever since. Had a wobble with them over the last year but I've spoke to my boss about it and we've sorted it out and things are positive again.

So your options are speak to your boss regarding concerns. Maybe some training/refresher courses but if things are that bad, a new company or self employment may be the best way to go.

If you've got any annual leave to take it recommend taking it soon and consider your options.

I don't think you can ever be 100% happy in your work. The good just has to outweigh the bad.

 

[Welder]

Sorry if this is long winded and depressing, but it’s how I currently feel. Been doing a lot a schoolboy errors recently, and currently have no love for the job I’m doing or even much pride. I think the final straw was last week after spending 4 hours on a job for me to rip it out again (that’s another story), since then, can’t seem to get going, just huffing and puffing a lot. Even looking at different jobs or even different career paths, but money on those is very low in comparison. Maybe it’s just who I work for currently (allegedly time served at council/housing association) been them nearly 15 years, and when I look at what people know on here it really gets my goat, because I feel I don’t even know some basics.

Not looking for sympathy, just looking for ideas etc.

Thanks in advance.

Firstly, sorry to hear you're feeling like that. Secondly, please don't worry about doing so. There are probably few people in the world who don't feel like that at some point - so you are far from alone!

On a personal level, I can relate to the feeling of a lack of confidence. However, what old age has taught me is that these things always have triggers of one kind or another. Further, it's not always something at work that kicks it off.

As, without doubt, the emotionally weaker gender in our species, I feel you've done bl00dy well to reach out. Most blokes just internalise things and they end up getting worse. At my age, I've been through most things life can throw at you. However, when the same thing happens for the 3rd time, you suddenly realise that it's YOU that's the common denominator so you have to carefully examine who's staring back at you from that mirror...

Without being rude, how old are you?

Can I ask a personal question? What do you feel the root cause of your feelings is? In my experience, 99% of us actually know what's wrong but we, for whatever reason, fail to to be able to say it out loud or 'face it'.

Happy to carry this on as a private conversation if you'd rather.

David

 

[Last Plumber]

What type of work do you do?
What's your favourite job?

 

[Last Plumber]

From time to time we all feel like if crying would help, we'd do it!

 

[Welder]

From time to time we all feel like if crying would help, we'd do it!

Over the last 9 months, what with Mum then Dad dying then the Rubbish with TapMedic, I've frigging bawled with frustration, anger and 'just because' believe me

 

[rpm]

Not looking for sympathy, just looking for ideas etc.

Thanks in advance.

Hey, I`ve been there, done it and have the T-shirts somewhere. In my case it was boredom and totally lack of concentration after being overlooked for promotion yet again (believe me being told we can`t afford to lose you off the tools doesn`t help), another was simply being burnt out and lack of sleep and another time was to do with a lady.

Take any holiday owing, try and forget about work, relax and come back ready to punch through that wall.

 

[Last Plumber]

It's good to know you're not alone isn't it?

If we didn't have the occasional melt down, we would not be human.

 

[Harvest Fields]

Chin up mate. We all have bad times. Sometimes you just get unlucky. Don’t ever question what you know, as you are right almost all of the time. It’s easy to second guess when doubt starts to set in. You’ll get through it.

 

[Best]

Definitely take a holiday - or just a short break. Try to go somewhere not too local.
If you do not have hobbies or sports interests, then it is more important you have something to escape from life’s numerous troubles.
Sometimes we need to back off from our routine and look at things differently.

 

[Burger]

I had the same feelings about 9 years ago. I just didn't want to get up and go to work anymore, so I quit my job and joined another company. Been happy with them ever since. Had a wobble with them over the last year but I've spoke to my boss about it and we've sorted it out and things are positive again.

So your options are speak to your boss regarding concerns. Maybe some training/refresher courses but if things are that bad, a new company or self employment may be the best way to go.

If you've got any annual leave to take it recommend taking it soon and consider your options.

I don't think you can ever be 100% happy in your work. The good just has to outweigh the bad.

Thanks Craig, not sure SE would be the way to go, as I don’t know enough yet. I used to be very eager, especially when I was an apprentice, I came out with my acs, unvented, water regs, it was great. However didn’t use my unvented once, didn’t touch gas until about 2-3 years after, and quoting water regs is just seen to be a pita. My current boss has his own stuff after just being promoted to the role, might talk to HR.

 

[Burger]

@YorkshireDave

Without being rude, how old are you?
37.

Can I ask a personal question? What do you feel the root cause of your feelings is? Lack of understanding about certain areas of my job, being promised certain things but not being delivered, such as training.

 

[Burger]

What type of work do you do?
What's your favourite job?

Supposed to be mainly boiler/heating breakdowns but because of the weather, been doing some fitting work and even plumbing. I don’t think I have a favourite, although, oddly I do feel satisfied when I’ve unblocked a tough drain - how sad is that

 

[Burger]

Take any holiday owing, try and forget about work, relax and come back ready to punch through that wall.

I’m already going on holiday in August to North Wales, the wife (and kids) don’t like travelling too far. Trouble is it doesn’t feel like much of a holiday because it’s self catering in a caravan. I don’t drink, and mostly prepare all of the breakfast, lunch and teas, and do any laundry while the wife looks after the kids.

 

[Aire]

I don’t drink

Perhaps it's time to start

 

[Welder]

@YorkshireDave

Without being rude, how old are you?
37.

Can I ask a personal question? What do you feel the root cause of your feelings is? Lack of understanding about certain areas of my job, being promised certain things but not being delivered, such as training.

Ok. At 37 I completely get that you need to be, well, heading somewhere. In my experience however that is unlikely to happen in bigger companies these days. The focus of those above you is to protect themselves and their ar5es. They, generally, are only interested in you doing as you are told not growing, not enjoying your job. They don't, why should you?

Personally, I don't feel it's a holiday you need, more a sense of being valued. I sure get that. That was why I chose to work for older people - I found I fed from their genuine appreciation.

IF... that is indeed the case, then my advice to you would be to move jobs. It sounds to me like a company with 5-10 guys/girls with a business owner who still cares is what you seek. There are quite a few around, so I feel like you should seek them out and go and have a beer with the boss. Whilst they may not have a vacancy at present, you are checking them out and narrowing down potential choices. Remember in any form of exchange like that you are assessing and choosing just as much as they. Eventually you WILL find what you seek and it will be an easy move with far fewer nasty surprises...

 

[rpm]

Some of what you say could be stress from being fed up. Go get blood pressure tested.

 

[townfanjon]

CBW , sorry I dont know your name pal .
What cracking input above from all your internet chums , great lads on here .
I cant really add much to whats been said ,
however I was out with a pal last Friday, he had played golf ( retired banker Pffttttt ) and played Rubbish went into the changing rooms moaning like hell because he had played Rubbish , just about threw his clubs down , when an old guy said to him , calm down my friend, loads of people would love to be able to just walk round a golf course.
Brings it home !!

 

[Burger]

What type of work do you do?
What's your favourite job?

I do like wiring and solving a fault

 

[Welder]

I do like wiring and solving a fault

Working for a smaller co delivers more variation, more opportunities to learn and a greater sense of achievement.

 

[Millsy 82]

I’m already going on holiday in August to North Wales, the wife (and kids) don’t like travelling too far. Trouble is it doesn’t feel like much of a holiday because it’s self catering in a caravan. I don’t drink, and mostly prepare all of the breakfast, lunch and teas, and do any laundry while the wife looks after the kids.

I use my surfing to give me that bit of me time. I honestly think if I didnt have that I'd go go bonkers and would probably end up in prison and there is nothing better than just sitting out there I cant hear a thing but even if it's only for half an hour I am relaxed. I'm not even that good but it is a big help.

 

[Millsy 82]

Working for a smaller co delivers more variation, more opportunities to learn and a greater sense of achievement.

And usually less twits above you that try and justify there jobs and make your life hell.

 

[Welder]

And usually less twits above you that try and justify there jobs and make your life hell.

An very pertinent point Millsy. Fact is, in bigger organisations, people are far more likely to, and often do, end up in positions they are neither qualified for or capable of fulfilling.