Mental Health Issues

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I think lifestyle can have a lot to do with depression in many of us.

 

[JCplumb]

Mate I'm sorry to hear about your dad and step dad. My mum died of cancer just over a year ago and my dad died about 4 years ago. My father in law passed Christmas day. Its hard. When I first started the firm, I think on about 4 or 5 occasions I made an excuse to go home because I got into a panic attack and told them it was the Mrs pregnancy that had to take her to hospital. Just went home to avoid the feeling of anxiety. Really didn't cope well with it all (the anxiety of work I mean). I've had CBT, hypnotherapy, counselling, psychoanalysis, was on anti depressants for about a year quite a few years back. My life has been a bit of a rollercoaster, as I'm sure most peoples are, but what doesn't kill you and all that. Nowadays I just try and live life day by day. If I get anxious I do my best to calm myself down, tell myself to relax, stop what I'm doing for a moment and take a minute to breathe. Sometimes it works, sometimes I panic. Just gotta do your best with what you got I guess.

I feel for you mate if you're going through this at the moment. As I mentioned, for me it came on quite quickly and was only really bad for a few months. Once I got over the worst of it it ended up as a bad memory. I'd hate to be living with it day in day out.
What was your CBT councillor like? I actually had 2, the first one I binned off after 2 sessions, he was rubbish, was like being in the Monty Pythons argument clinic sketch for an hour. The second one I had was brilliant.

 

[plumben]

Haha sorry but this literally made me laugh out loud! Who did an snatch on an immersion? Are there people that brave? Or stupid? Lol I still get nervous when freezing pipes and cutting them, but I quite like the nerves on that one, I like the risk factor lol

This post http://www.ukplumbersforums.co.uk/plumbing-forum/88104-no-drain-off-tap-hot-water.html

 

[TFGplumbing]

Just putting it out there..

Does anyone suffer from any mental health issues.. Me? Severe self esteem and anxiety issues. Does my bloody head in lol

Just wonder if I'm alone in the mental department...

Got a job on tomorrow and I'm already getting anxious about it, ain't even that bad a job

I get anxious before some jobs definitely, especially if its a customer I haven't worked for; I personally found a few things that helped with my anxiety.

Gain more knowledge to boost confidence.
I gave up smoking; It was hell to start with though.
I stopped drinking caffeine containing drinks like coffee or tea, they can trigger anxiety attacks; this one really helped me. Caffeine is the most commonly use psychoactive drug.

 

[Millsy 82]

I get anxious all the time about jobs. I think most people do about some jobs.

I don't get it too bad unless it's a real problem job.

I can remember a job not too long back I went out and diagnosed a faulty fan, went back 2 days later with the fan and fitted it, still the same problem, after a few phone calls to Baxi I confirmed it was the pcb. I spent what felt like 20 minutes trying to work out what to say and worked myself up to the point I could hardly talk (I don't stutter but I can't get the words from my head to my mouth) so went out to find something in the van and spent 5 minutes composing myself then a couple of deep breathes and went for it. All that worry for nothing she was fine about it so got new pcb and put it in. It still didn't work so I put the new fan back in and away it went so then I started worrying about telling her it needed both until she walked round the corner and said ooh it's working.

I do find that for installs I over think things and keep changing my mind but I find a radio helps me for that, I work out what I'm doing in the morning make my plan then radio goes on and off I go.

 

[mutley racers]

I understand where you're coming from feller. I also think about some jobs too much and end up worrying about them and don't get any sleep over it. I think mine is to do with my past though. Too many sweeties of kinds when younger and it has made me paranoid as hell.

I always do the best job I can and double check I have done everything right but my mind tells me otherwise. The other day I had a voicemail and someone had actually called be by mistake. I could not hear what they were saying but it sounded like 'let's just get him to change the valve and see from there'. It was 7 minutes long and that's all I could hear. The rest was not clear. I thought it was Gas Safe setting me up for a secret inspection as maybe I had done some thing wrong. Although I go over all checks twice if not more. I listened to that message 7 times and to my dismay accidently deleted. So I tried calling the number and no one would answer. I was panicking all night and my wife was going nuts as I couldn't talk to her or concentrate on anything else.

And to be honest, I still am freaked out about it.

 

[jonnyswamp]

I sympathise with anyone brave enough to admit it, I know a few of my mates who, lets say, could do with a counsilling session or two
I don't think I'm the full shilling either as it happens, but I get by
If things start to rile me, I'll take the dogs up over the mountain for a few hrs or go to the pub for a couple of pints
Those 3/4 pints with your mates can make the world of difference, see things in a different light (don't get bladdered though)
My youngest daughter was very ill when she was about 18months, in intensive care and given a 50/50 chance (she has the heart of a lion now and is fine) If I start to feel hard done by, that thought brings me back on track
Not much help to anyone else I know, but does me

 

[jaydebruyne]

In one sense I'm glad I'm not alone but it's not something in glad about you guys suffering as well.

So I did the job today, I was given 3 hours to do this and it took me all day :/ weird as I was actually pretty calm apart from when I first got there and the custard is asking me straight away how I'm gonna run the pipework - nearly had a melt down in front of her. Here's some pics:

I need to start working on being quicker with pipework.

 

[jonnyswamp]

Did your boss tell you to run it like that

 

[jaydebruyne]

Did your boss tell you to run it like that

Yeah.. ??

 

[plumben]

I wouldn't worry about how long it takes you to do a job, I find if I'm doing pipe work it takes a lot longer to get it all in nice and neat, compared to just banging it in under a floor

 

[plumben]

As for the run if it was me, I would of came out the wall where you did up the back of the soil pipe along the wall round the corner over the window and drop down

 

[jaydebruyne]

As for the run if it was me, I would of came out the wall where you did up the back of the soil pipe along the wall round the corner over the window and drop down

I thought that also but was told to do it low level and the route I did it

 

[plumben]

I thought that also but was told to do it low level and the route I did it

Nothing wrong with the way you did it and you where told to do it that way, but from a damage point of view if its up high its not going to get knocked or bashed

 

[jaydebruyne]

Nothing wrong with the way you did it and you where told to do it that way, but from a damage point of view if its up high its not going to get knocked or bashed

You're right. Man gonna be up all night worrying about it :/ I'm sure I didn't take his direction wrong because I called him before I ran it to double check that's what he wanted and discussed the job with him after and said again how I ran it. Man already panicking about it now

 

[plumben]

You're right. Man gonna be up all night worrying about it :/ I'm sure I didn't take his direction wrong because I called him before I ran it to double check that's what he wanted and discussed the job with him after and said again how I ran it. Man already panicking about it now

There's nothing to worry about, that run is perfectly fine, yes some fellas might of ran it different but most would of done the same as you have, plus its outside if it ever did become damaged which would be fairly difficult to do its vented very well

 

[ShaunCorbs]

anyone else thinking the run should of been in 28mm?

and jay looks ok other than the step bit but thats the only thing

 

[jaydebruyne]

anyone else thinking the run should of been in 28mm?

and jay looks ok other than the step bit but thats the only thing

I knew I should of trusted my gut feeling @@@@@

 

[ShaunCorbs]

I knew I should of trusted my gut feeling @@@@@

live and learn but if your boss told you to run it that way your fine

 

[jaydebruyne]

live and learn but if your boss told you to run it that way your fine

I don't like doing things which aren't correct, it makes me feel like a @@@@! Especially with gas..

 

[Phil]

I don't get anxious but I worry, i always doubt myself, like everytime a regular customer rings up I think oh god whats gone wrong, whats leaking. Its rarely the case but I always breathe a sigh of relief..

 

[jaydebruyne]

I don't get anxious but I worry, i always doubt myself, like everytime a regular customer rings up I think oh god whats gone wrong, whats leaking. Its rarely the case but I always breathe a sigh of relief..

Snap! Sometimes I preempt a callback even though I know its fine

 

[rocketmanbkk]

I'm the same, not always but if I start over thinking a job then it's in my mind. Not so bad nowadays tbh but I used to be bad.

 

[plumben]

I don't get anxious but I worry, i always doubt myself, like everytime a regular customer rings up I think oh god whats gone wrong, whats leaking. Its rarely the case but I always breathe a sigh of relief..

When the customer rings you to come collet your money or to say how made up they are with the job, but the first two rings you've already imagined the customer coming home to water gushing out the front door

 

[rocketmanbkk]

I don't do pressure anymore, that's why I left my job 4 odd years ago, high blood pressure, no good

Now I take it easier, do jobs I can do, try not to over think them.

I also used to try & do too much which put me under pressure

Now I do what I'm comfortable doing, if that's 1 job or 2 then that's ok.

Stress & worry are the evils in today's working life.

They're not for me anymore.

Tomorrow I've got a regular job plus a plumb job. I might finish by 1 or it might take until 4. I don't rush, just take it easy.