Mental Health Issues

[rocketmanbkk]

Reading the posts it's good to know others feel things I used to feel & still feel.

It's good to share & talk

Good post

Thx

 

[jaydebruyne]

I don't do pressure anymore, that's why I left my job 4 odd years ago, high blood pressure, no good

Now I take it easier, do jobs I can do, try not to over think them.

I also used to try & do too much which put me under pressure

Now I do what I'm comfortable doing, if that's 1 job or 2 then that's ok.

Stress & worry are the evils in today's working life.

They're not for me anymore.

Tomorrow I've got a regular job plus a plumb job. I might finish by 1 or it might take until 4. I don't rush, just take it easy.

Regular job?

 

[rocketmanbkk]

I've got a regular contract. Small daily job for an hour.

 

[jaydebruyne]

I've got a regular contract. Small daily job for an hour.

Not a plumbing contract? What type of work is it?

 

[REDSAW]

@~@
your boss is a knob!!
i would have gone under the door at least (less work n materials) rand it in 32mm white pvc kick guard and clipped either end if didnt fit under threashold.
or, as you know, first floor level and drop down!
also bit low to floor!

neat though

 

[jaydebruyne]

@~@
your boss is a knob!!
i would have gone under the door at least (less work n materials) rand it in 32mm white pvc kick guard and clipped either end if didnt fit under threashold.
or, as you know, first floor level and drop down!
also bit low to floor!

neat though

This is exactly the reason I wish I'd done a proper apprenticeship ... Its bloody hard learning on you're own!!!!! There was no room to go under the door, it was an option I looked at.

I'm gonna speak to my boss tomorrow, I'm really starting to worry about it now.

I'm doubting whether I took his instruction correctly :/

He said, go around the stairs, that's going around the stairs, right!?;?!?

 

[REDSAW]

This is exactly the reason I wish I'd done a proper apprenticeship ... Its bloody hard learning on you're own!!!!! There was no room to go under the door, it was an option I looked at.

I'm gonna speak to my boss tomorrow, I'm really starting to worry about it now.

I'm doubting whether I took his instruction correctly :/

He said, go around the stairs, that's going around the stairs, right!?;?!?

you mean go around the 'steps' ? the stairs are in the house!!?
then you gave him what he asked for so i would tell him to feck it!

if i was going that route i would have kept the outlet drop 4-5'' off the floor to match into the middle step on the run, less pipe and work to do!
or i still would go to threashold keeping it all level running into 32mm (or not as its no different to what you have done) pipe at door step. that would only take 2 hours.

whats the worse that can happen? go back in your own time and change it!!

 

[newcastle phill]

I suffer severe anxiety everytime a brown envelope falls through the letterbox...

Seriously my ex wife had extreme bipolar disorder. It manifested itself more when we split up - but with hindsight the tell tale signs were there years ago.
Had a profound effect on all

 

[tamz]

I had that feeling the other day. Walked in the door and looked over my desk to see the brown envelope and thought oh ffs.
Pleasantly surprised to see that toss pot accountant had applied for a tax rebate and a nice £1600 cheque.
I suppose i'll need to pay him now lol.

 

[tamz]

Onto the more serious subject.
I've never bothered about anything in my life from work to personal. If shyt is going to happen it will happen and when it does i'm not going to panic about it.
What is going to happen, nothing. Everything can be dealt with. Just go with the flow.
However i've worked with a couple of guys over the years who could best be described as a bag of nerves. They were good enough at what they did but lacked confidence and how to deal with a fk up situation (we've all had them)
When i was younger it was funny to watch them but as i got older i would help them deal with it. Hard to say how but mainly by sending them out the room, dealing with it then talking confidence into them.
Maybe the confidence thing is because people jump into the deep end these days without the rubber ring we had.

Here is one from last week.
Fitted a cloakroom suite for a woman, back to wall pan and basin. Fitted the pan turned the water on and went out for a ***.
Woman runs out saying the water is running down her hall. Fs i've only had 2 drags: so walks back in (never run) and sure enough the water is running out the cloakroom door, ballcock running at full whack and running over the top of the cistern (some cheap internet rubbish).
I just turned the valve off and said "good job that wasn't in yer upstairs bathroom or you woulda had a ceiling down. Get me a couple of towels and i'll dry this up. Btw i told you that cistern was shyte i'll go buy you a real wan".
Take it in your stride and never panic is the best i can offer.

 

[jaydebruyne]

Onto the more serious subject.
I've never bothered about anything in my life from work to personal. If shyt is going to happen it will happen and when it does i'm not going to panic about it.
What is going to happen, nothing. Everything can be dealt with. Just go with the flow.
However i've worked with a couple of guys over the years who could best be described as a bag of nerves. They were good enough at what they did but lacked confidence and how to deal with a fk up situation (we've all had them)
When i was younger it was funny to watch them but as i got older i would help them deal with it. Hard to say how but mainly by sending them out the room, dealing with it then talking confidence into them.
Maybe the confidence thing is because people jump into the deep end these days without the rubber ring we had.

Here is one from last week.
Fitted a cloakroom suite for a woman, back to wall pan and basin. Fitted the pan turned the water on and went out for a ***.
Woman runs out saying the water is running down her hall. Fs i've only had 2 drags: so walks back in (never run) and sure enough the water is running out the cloakroom door, ballcock running at full whack and running over the top of the cistern (some cheap internet rubbish).
I just turned the valve off and said "good job that wasn't in yer upstairs bathroom or you woulda had a ceiling down. Get me a couple of towels and i'll dry this up. Btw i told you that cistern was shyte i'll go buy you a real wan".
Take it in your stride and never panic is the best i can offer.

Mate I wish I was as calm as you about life. I get very rare days where I'm chilled with work and it feels so nice to give my mind a break. But they're seldom around and all I get all day is a war between good and evil lol one voice trying yo win a battle against the negative sh** I tell myself all the time. Its tiring.

 

[mutley racers]

Also head lines like these scare the crap out of me.Haxby house destroyed in explosion after loud bang - BBC News.

It's not my area but I feel for the last engineer at the property.

 

[Masood]

I've got a regular contract. Small daily job for an hour.

Not a plumbing contract? What type of work is it?

Bored housewife needs daily servicing maybe?

 

[Masood]

Onto the more serious subject.
I've never bothered about anything in my life from work to personal. If shyt is going to happen it will happen and when it does i'm not going to panic about it.
What is going to happen, nothing. Everything can be dealt with. Just go with the flow.
However i've worked with a couple of guys over the years who could best be described as a bag of nerves. They were good enough at what they did but lacked confidence and how to deal with a fk up situation (we've all had them)
When i was younger it was funny to watch them but as i got older i would help them deal with it. Hard to say how but mainly by sending them out the room, dealing with it then talking confidence into them.
Maybe the confidence thing is because people jump into the deep end these days without the rubber ring we had.

Here is one from last week.
Fitted a cloakroom suite for a woman, back to wall pan and basin. Fitted the pan turned the water on and went out for a ***.
Woman runs out saying the water is running down her hall. Fs i've only had 2 drags: so walks back in (never run) and sure enough the water is running out the cloakroom door, ballcock running at full whack and running over the top of the cistern (some cheap internet rubbish).
I just turned the valve off and said "good job that wasn't in yer upstairs bathroom or you woulda had a ceiling down. Get me a couple of towels and i'll dry this up. Btw i told you that cistern was shyte i'll go buy you a real wan".
Take it in your stride and never panic is the best i can offer.

That's how I've always imagined you, Tam - totally unflappable, and it's a great way to be.

But clinical anxiety and depression has very little to do with conscious thought or behaviour patterns. It's caused by chemical imbalances in the brain - reduced amounts of dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine to be precise.

True, clinical depression is an absolute *******. It's like constantly choking under thick black clouds, completely unable to ever imagine being happy or able to function properly. It makes you completely unable to interact with other people and in extreme cases, physically unable to get up off the bed, even to eat - this is not laziness or feeling "meh" but genuine physical exhaustion at the slightest effort.

Complete and constant self-doubt, self-loathing, anhedonia and the genuine, totally concrete belief that you're worse than **** and the world would be better without you. It's the single biggest cause of death amongst men under 45 in the UK.

Brave post, Jay, and some very brave responses too. All I can say is, if you're feeling depressed and it lasts more than a couple of weeks, or comes on repeatedly, please, please seek help. There is no shame or stigma attached to it, and medicine and therapy really do help.

Sorry to get deep and serious on a Friday but...

 

[clarky101]

Onto the more serious subject.
I've never bothered about anything in my life from work to personal. If shyt is going to happen it will happen and when it does i'm not going to panic about it.
What is going to happen, nothing. Everything can be dealt with. Just go with the flow.
However i've worked with a couple of guys over the years who could best be described as a bag of nerves. They were good enough at what they did but lacked confidence and how to deal with a fk up situation (we've all had them)
When i was younger it was funny to watch them but as i got older i would help them deal with it. Hard to say how but mainly by sending them out the room, dealing with it then talking confidence into them.
Maybe the confidence thing is because people jump into the deep end these days without the rubber ring we had.

Here is one from last week.
Fitted a cloakroom suite for a woman, back to wall pan and basin. Fitted the pan turned the water on and went out for a ***.
Woman runs out saying the water is running down her hall. Fs i've only had 2 drags: so walks back in (never run) and sure enough the water is running out the cloakroom door, ballcock running at full whack and running over the top of the cistern (some cheap internet rubbish).
I just turned the valve off and said "good job that wasn't in yer upstairs bathroom or you woulda had a ceiling down. Get me a couple of towels and i'll dry this up. Btw i told you that cistern was shyte i'll go buy you a real wan".
Take it in your stride and never panic is the best i can offer.

When I react like this it's classed as not interested/ couldn't care less etc ..but in reality it's a front.....I think the older you get the confidence decides to wane for one reason or another. I have a couple of plumber/ Htg engineers that I always talk to, sometimes I have the sorry to bother you line but it does help....

 

[ShaunCorbs]

what happened after jay, did you ask your boss?

 

[jaydebruyne]

what happened after jay, did you ask your boss?

Tried to chat a couple times but he didn't call back so will send him a message tomorrow. Worst case scenario is I go and redo that section of pipework I guess and being told 'why did you do it like that, I told you to go around the steps' lol

 

[jaydebruyne]

what happened after jay, did you ask your boss?

Sent the boss the pics, he's gonna gonna reroute the pipework around the door. He also commented how neat my pipework was which I'm quite pleased about. So no more anxiety for this one

 

[ShaunCorbs]

Sent the boss the pics, he's gonna gonna reroute the pipework around the door. He also commented how neat my pipework was which I'm quite pleased about. So no more anxiety for this one

thats nice of him and it is neat no big snots and no green lines your getting better

 

[jaydebruyne]

thats nice of him and it is neat no big snots and no green lines your getting better

cheers Shaun much appreciated. He said he's gonna chuck me a few simple boiler installs now lol

 

[ShaunCorbs]

cheers Shaun much appreciated. He said he's gonna chuck me a few simple boiler installs now lol

ooooo moving up in the world and go with your gut and trust your self

 

[lame plumber]

la lala la la lalalalala laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa laaaaaaaaa , what stress? just listen to the voices and do as they say.......

 

[jaydebruyne]

ooooo moving up in the world and go with your gut and trust your self

I think I'll do just that mate!!

 

[ShaunCorbs]

la lala la la lalalalala laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa laaaaaaaaa , what stress? just listen to the voices and do as they say.......

even if they get you in trouble ?

 

[jaydebruyne]

la lala la la lalalalala laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa laaaaaaaaa , what stress? just listen to the voices and do as they say.......

Easy to say if it's just one voice you hear, but when you get opposing voices it all becomes a little tricky lol