As the original poster I'm really happy with the discussion here, cheers.
It has got me thinking, especially the cooling effect on the hot water store with the pump running from morning til night like they plan to but they actually havn't been using the secondary return pump as they wern't sure about having it on all day.
It is a large 5 bedroom property and they say you can go for a *** before the hot water comes through so the wait is an issue as it is more like minutes rather than seconds at times.
A pipe stat certainly sounds more useful, combined with the timer. Their secondary return pipework is actually all in 22mm I think and lagged most of the way, I mentioned that 15mm would've been more efficient. The cylinder and pump is in a loft room that could become a bedroom, I tried it out and the noise wasn't a major issue after all.
I would like to find out more on the cooling effects of having the pump running all day which they may try out, I see if the pipe is 15mm or less and lagged properly it shouldn't be majorly inefficient.
Seeing as they are coping without the secondary return pump running and if the heat losses from it are that great then probably not worth installing in most domestic situations.